The Amazing Blessingway

I was so honored two weeks ago by my friends and family, my community of mothers when they hosted and organized a "Blessingway" in my honor.  This is my second pregnancy, and I was inspired by my friend Rebecca to request a Blessingway rather than a traditional baby shower.   Many people have asked me what a Blessingway is - it can hold many meanings but on this particular occasion it consisted of my friends and family showing their support for me in my transition to "Mother of two".  All of the mothers who attended are positive influences and women who are part of my "Mothering Community" here in North Texas.  They inspire, teach, advise and understand me as a woman.   My daughter, Grace plays with their children, and I enjoy their company.  My closest female family members were encouraged to send a bead with an explanation for the bead ceremony.  All the beads received are strung together as a necklace for the mother to wear during labor.  It reminds her of all the support and love that she has when she needs it most.   

I loved opening up the packets of beads and reading the explanations as to why each person chose their particular beads.  Some of the explanations nearly brought tears to my eyes, and touched me more that I could have ever thought possible.  It was very moving for me. 


The host, my sweet friend Rheagan prepared an incredible gluten-free meal for myself and all the guests.  It was refreshing, and delicious.  I am always touched when someone goes so far out of their way to make a meal that is gluten free just because I'm celiac.  I never expect it, so when it happens I'm in awe of the kindness that I experience.  Rheagan also filled up a basin of warm water for me to soak my feet in, she then gave me an amazing foot massage that rivaled the best pedicure that I ever had!   She even buffed my toe nails for me, because I'm not a fan of using polish.  I NEVER expected the amazing foot massage, I felt so loved and pampered.


My dear friend Uzma is an incredible henna artist - she created an awesome henna design on my belly which consisted of a heart around my navel surrounded by beautiful flowery designs.  It's hard for me to describe so I'll post a photo to do it justice.  She studiously and quietly worked to adorn my baby bump despite the fact that she was not feeling well that day - again, I felt very special and very loved. 

It's not often that as women we come together and share in the joy of a birth in such a way.   Many times the focus is primarily on receiving material items.  Some of my friends did give me some awesome gifts and outfits for the new baby, but it was not expected and it certainly was not the focus of the evening. 

I loved the connection and the spiritual vibe that the night consisted of.  I am grateful to G-d for bringing these women into my life.  Without them, motherhood would in no way be the same for me.  On the rare occasion that Grace was sick I heeded their sage advice and she was better.  When I needed something (without even asking) it was left quietly on my doorstep.   Sadly, I have no family in close proximity to where I live,  which makes me all the more grateful for the amazing women in my community.   I LOVE YOU ALL!  You made me feel more loved than I have felt in a very long time.  I truly appreciate all that you did for me on that amazing night, and I cherish the womanly bond that we share together.  I only hope that I can make you feel as loved as I did that night.